by Kelly Pelton (written 03 Nov 2021)
It behooves us to know that some personality afflictions cause relational handicaps, vexing us with contradictions between words and the actions of men and women so afflicted; let us not then judge the genders by how by these they are depicted! Be savvy to the suffering ones whose intentions may be upright but their methods wreak havoc in fellowships that want to be tight. To then learn how to manage these difficult, disruptive people is how Christians get empowered, ditching roles of timid sheeple. We get firm and use humor in setting boundaries that are healthy; distraction and confidence are strategies both wise and stealthy. We don't cave to the tantrums of men or women misbehaving; we stay upbeat and positive even when there's angry raving. As Christians catch on to these personality disorders, we will not blame one gender nor limit them with man-made borders. We'll recognize that "difficult" is not a male or female feature; it's minority pathology of laity and also preacher.